NASHALY FERMIN

Fashion/lifestyle blog about my life

Sunday, November 10, 2019

Finding Purpose

A month later and I'm back babes. Took me a month, but I swear this post has been sitting in my drafts for weeks. I know I'm only 21 years old, almost 30 at heart and this is the point in life where I'm not sure about anything. Everything is moving fast and slow at the same time. Some people are in college, some working and others not doing anything. I already had the "not doing anything phase" so I'm over that. I feel like I wasted a lot of time not doing anything but then again I didn't really grasp until now how fast your youth goes away. I can't stop thinking or planning. My mind is constantly planning; planning dates, planning my paychecks, planning my future and this shit called life is hard. It's hard figuring out what you want to do with your life or what's meaningful enough to pursue. I think 2019 was the year I finally figured out what I want at least for now considering my mind is constantly evolving. For starters, I finally shared my blog with everyone in 2019 which as of right now is my greatest accomplishment of the year. As you all may know if you read my previous posts, this blog has been in the works since I was in high school meaning when I was 17, so it took me 4 years to finally let go of my fear and start publishing. I was so scared before wondering who would read what I post, but this was always something I wanted to do for myself and that's what really matters. Career wise, I have an idea of what I want but that's something to share later on. Once I turned 20, life starting moving fast, 12 months which I used to feel lasted forever now feels like it ends in 6. Everything is moving so fast and I had to get my shit together because let's be honest I have very expensive taste and my mom is not going to sustain my lifestyle forever. I guess this is a bit of an end of the year reflection that I am sharing, because this year I learned a lot and I am grateful for all the experiences that have taught me to mature and become the person I am today. I know I will only get better and yes a lot of people say that and are still in the same position from a year ago but I really believe something amazing is bound to happen to me and I can't wait to share it with all of you!
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Tuesday, October 8, 2019

Relationships

I'm back again! Consistency seems to be a problem for me on the blog. But, today I want to talk about the only thing I've been consistent on and that is my relationship. I never thought of myself as one of those clingy girlfriends that always wants to be with their significant other yet here I am. I am super clingy, annoying even sadly for him. To this day I am still amazed at how we've both managed to keep our relationship even through the ups and downs. I am so stubborn sometimes, well most of the time if we're being honest, one of my worst traits; and that stubbornness is the main reason why we argue. Even knowing I can avoid certain arguments by just agreeing, I still say the contrary just because I'm so stubborn; but to be honest, he's used to it by now I mean he has to be because let's face it even when I'm wrong I am right its that simple. Yes, I have dated and seen other people before this relationship but this is my first real "grown up" relationship and its not all fun and dates all the time, sometimes it hurts. There are times where we've both thought of breaking things off, sometimes we even do out of anger but we always find our way back. I know I am young and can't properly grasp the idea of "love" but how else would I describe this indescribable feeling that I have when I am with him or even thinking of him. So that's how I knew I loved him and he should feel special because I don't really care about people so much let alone love in such a way. Loving someone is like a full time job or maybe it's just because I'm a bit crazy and intrigued with him at all hours of the day, sadly another thing he has to deal with. Sometimes I say I am obsessed as a simpler explanation but its just fascinating to care about someone so much you want to talk and be with them everyday, especially when that feeling is fairly new to you no matter how long we've been together that feeling never goes away. I was a bit skeptical writing about my relationship, first because I did not know how much I actually wanted to share and two because what if I write about my boyfriend and then one day we break up and he's not mine to write about. But, somehow deep down I don't think we'll break up no matter how many times I drive him crazy and well if we do then I was lucky enough to experience love the way I currently am. No relationship is perfect and whoever says theirs is a flat out liar, so don't listen to people when they come with their shit.
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Sunday, August 4, 2019

Adulting


I said I would try to be more consistent and honestly the timing is perfect to talk about this subject; and that is adulting. What does "adulting" mean? Practically its behavior seen as responsible and grown up. In my household it's hearing my mom constantly say "tienes que cojer cabeza ya tu no tienes 15 anos, ponte para lo tuyo" which practically means I'm no longer 15 years so I have to get my shit together. Annoying as it was hearing her always say that she's totally right. Once I turned 20 I felt like I had to have everything together, not knowing where to even begin to build for my future and now being 21 I can finally say I have a plan of where I see myself in a couple years. The older I get the more I realize how fast time goes, and how it doesn't wait or stop for anybody; which is honestly what made me realize I needed to get it together. My mom as annoying as she might be sometimes has literally been the best mom anyone could ever ask for, but part of becoming an adult is also realizing that I won't be living with my mom forever and need to financially be able to take care of myself and I could proudly say I am doing just that. So many more things make me so proud of the person I am becoming and that is because I've finally grown up. Although at times I won't deny I act like I'm 5 years old but that's called balance because being a so called adult is tiring. Going back to why I said writing about "adulting" is perfect timing because of the way my life is now compared to a year ago. Last night I went out for drinks with my friend and got home at 4am because "la calle me llama" and I was just having way too much fun to get home at normal hours; the only problem was I got home so late and I worked at 9am and like the adult that I am now I didnt let that phase me, I casually woke up at 7am to get ready and did my job, because although I am an "adult" now that doesn't mean the fun has to stop. A year ago I would go out get home at the same time and sleep all day, which doesn't sound bad after a night out but I much rather go out and struggle getting up to go to work than have no job and be home all day. I don't know how I did it all the time, looking back I feel like I wasted a whole year doing nothing but never again. Time is valuable and I have high standards for myself not including my expensive taste in fashion and in everything else in general I have to keep up with so learning to be responsible was the best thing I could have done for myself.
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Monday, July 29, 2019

Girl Problems



It's been a couple months since I've been back here. As much as I wanted to start this blog I've left it somewhat abandoned for a couple months and that's because this is hard. It's easy writing everything down for myself in a section of my notes on my phone; I have a million things to talk about, ideas of outfits and it's harder than I though to put my own crazy thoughts into words people besides myself will understand. But today I want to talk about something that's been on my mind for a couple days lately and its how hard it is to be a girl. Honestly, not just saying it because I am a girl, but being a girl/woman in this world is hard as hell. First of all, has anyone really put into thought all that goes into getting ready. Don't even get me started on the time I take getting ready, practically it's either I look like a mess or go all out.  Going all out means planning outfits two-three days in advance, getting hair done, planning makeup looks. Sounds a little obsessive but honestly I play no games when it comes to my outfits. Even trying to look presentable on a day to day basis requires so much work. I don't have anything against guys and not to sound like a crazy feminist but guys have it so much easier, haircut, nice clothes and a good cologne can make a guy go from a 5 to 9 in seconds. Not to mention all the other ways guys have it much easier in life in general but let me not get into that. I love getting pampered, from head to toe. I love getting my hair done, I have an obsession with my nails, and shopping is my life (litterallyyyy) and although I love all those things it takes up so much time. I could never take 45 mins to just do my hair; I'm Dominican and if you ever heard the saying "Dominican time" that's the way getting my hair, nails, and everything else is timed which in other words means it takes all day. I happily take my entire day off to pamper myself because it's always been important to me to maintain myself, but now being a working girl as I like to call myself even pampering yourself get's exhausting. Being a girl is hard but honestly I wouldn't change how extra I am for anything because I  know all the hassle to look good is worth it.
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Wednesday, January 9, 2019

Welcome To My LIfe



"Life's short- Buy the shoes, drink the wine, order the dessert"  words to live by if you ask me. My name is Nashaly Fermin hence why this blog is called that if any of you were wondering; I thought about other names, but what better than my own name, after all this is about me and my life. I've been wanting to start my own blog and have my own platform to write about fashion and just topics such as my experiences throughout my life and thoughts for several years now. A lot has happened to finally make me decide to go and do this but most importantly I wanted to stop wondering. Stop wondering "what will people think," " what if no one reads it" enough is enough, I wanted to do this for me and that's the only person I should think about pleasing. Sometimes I forget that it doesn't matter what people think because no one else is going to live your life but you, therefore that's why you shouldn't care. My mom taught me at an early age that if you want something you go get it, whether it may be a pair of shoes, clothing, even something you're craving to eat because you're here today and may not know about tomorrow. Sometimes living with that mentality makes me indulge in things I shouldn't, makes me waste my last dollar in a lipstick in Sephora; I do have very impulsive tendencies with everything which is one of my many qualities and you’ll all find out my impulsivity sometimes gets me into situations I could have avoided. Welcome to my life, I’m excited to share it with you all!
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